Worried about your parents as they get older and maybe aren’t as healthy as they used to be? Want to do all you can to look out for them, but also don’t want to make them feel like you’re monitoring them or taking away their dignity? Here’s what to do to keep tabs on your elderly relatives discreetly.
1. Embrace the Tech (and Pretend You’re a Secret Agent)
We’re living in a golden era of “smart” everything—smartphones, smart TVs, even smart fridges that judge your biscuit consumption habits. Why not harness this technological wonder for the seniors in your life? If your folks have Wi-Fi (and some patience), video calls or messaging apps can be your virtual window into their world. Suddenly, you can check in on Mum’s new hobby (though crocheting hats for the cat might be questionable) without leaving your sofa.
For an added sense of security, you can also explore the Life Assure emergency response system—a nifty device that alerts emergency responders (and you) if your relative takes a tumble or has a health scare. Think of it as your personal Q-branch gadget, minus the exploding pens. If mobility is becoming a concern, an Outdoor Mobility scooter can be a game-changer, offering freedom, independence, and a safer way for your loved ones to stay active and enjoy the outdoors without feeling limited.
2. The Power of the Random Drop-In
Nothing says “I care” quite like popping by unannounced, ideally with cake in hand. Sure, you’ll probably leave with a month’s worth of jam or crocheted doilies, but at least you’ll see first-hand how your parent or grandparent is coping. Stairs looking like a booby trap? Kettle hanging on for dear life? You’ll be able to spot potential problems and make changes before an accident happens. Plus, you get bonus points if you bring a decent cup of coffee (instant coffee is banned, obviously).
3. Recruit the Local Gossip Network
If you live far away, fear not. Enlist neighbours, friends, or the local postie to keep an eye out. Chances are, there’s someone who’s more than happy to play detective from their front window. A friendly wave or a quick chat can provide valuable intel, like whether Mrs Jenkins hasn’t picked up her newspaper for three days, or if your grandad’s lights haven’t been switched on at night. Plus, if your elderly relative is in a care facility like the arbors, then asking staff or residents they are friends with can also provide valuable information. This is less “big brother” and more “caring community,” and it can make a huge difference in times of need.
4. Social Activities: The Sneaky Check-Up
One of the best ways to ensure your elderly relative is doing well is by getting them out and about. Sign them up for local clubs—knitting clubs, choir practices, or even salsa lessons (yes, seniors can salsa, and they’re often better than we are). Whether they’re making jam with the Women’s Institute or doing laps around the community pool, social gatherings are brilliant for mental health… and they’re a stealthy way for you to gauge how active and engaged they are.
5. The Art of Over-Communication
Yes, texting your mum memes might feel odd at first, but a quick message here and there shows you’re thinking of her. Phone calls, postcards, carrier pigeons—whatever it takes. Frequent contact encourages them to share any little niggles that might turn into big issues later. Plus, it’s nice to natter. You might learn a few saucy secrets from their youth. (Apparently, your dad was once banned from a pub. Who knew?)
You don’t have to turn into a spy to ensure that your elderly relatives are okay, while keeping their dignity, so be sure to implement some of these ideas into your (and their ) life!
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