You already know this, but confidence doesn’t just show up one morning with the alarm. It builds slowly, with the tiny decisions made in between brushing hair and reheating the same cup of tea for the third time, or having that timeless yet stylish wardrobe you always wanted. For mums especially, confidence can feel like something that’s always a few steps behind, like nudged out by routines, responsibilities, and everyone else’s needs taking centre stage.
But building it back up? Well, that doesn’t need to involve a huge makeover or an epiphany on a mountaintop. Actually, it starts with the little things, the habits that gently remind someone they’re still more than a personal chef, part-time taxi driver, and laundry folder-in-chief.
Make a Voice Note Just for Yourself
Okay, yeah, sure, it sounds odd, but recording a voice note of thoughts, reminders, or just a venting moment can feel strangely empowering. Hearing your own voice say what you’re thinking brings a kind of clarity that’s hard to get from silent overthinking. It doesn’t need to be poetic or polished. Just honest. Over time, it becomes a reminder of how much you manage, how far you’ve come, and how capable you actually are.
Fix the Thing that’s Been Bothering You
You probably know this, but confidence sometimes hides in the undone. That thing you keep thinking about, like a cracked phone screen, a pulled thread in your favourite jumper, or a dental issue, well, it all weighs more than it seems.
So it might actually be ideal to consider tackling one of those little things, just one, that has a ripple effect. For example, getting dental implants isn’t just about teeth. If you really think about it, something like this is more about smiling without hesitation again. It’s the kind of fix that restores more than appearance; it brings ease back into moments that used to cause discomfort.
Wear Your Favourite Scent Even if You’re Not Going Anywhere
You can even just dress up, even if you’re not going out; that one is a bit generic, but it’s true. But yeah, the same can be said for scent as well. So, perfume, essential oils, even that hand cream that smells like summer.
Besides, scent has memory, and using a favourite one just for the sake of it can be a confidence nudge that takes all of two seconds. It’s not about being seen. It’s about feeling like the version of yourself that feels good to be.
Choose the Mug that Makes You Smile
There’s always a favourite mug in the cupboard. Maybe it’s chipped, maybe it has a weird phrase on it, but using it instead of the bland one makes a tiny difference. It’s the equivalent of choosing the window seat in your own life. Small, but quietly powerful.
Play Music that Reminds You of Who You Were
Honestly, who doesn’t love a nostalgic Spotify playlist? Okay, even the ones on YouTube can be pretty nice too. So, throwing on a playlist filled with songs from a past version of you, the one that danced more, felt freer, or stayed out past ten, can actually unlock a part of yourself that’s still very much there. Even if it’s just one song during the washing up, it can bring back a little spark that feels like yours and yours alone.
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